If you ask any mom if she’s happy, your answer is almost always a ‘yes’. I had a few moms admit to me that there’s always that little guilt they feel when they say ‘no’ due to having the baby blues, Post Partum Depression or anxiety. I have not been diagnosed professionally but I do feel down and anxious sometimes. Those first three months, I just remember crying about everything! A sad song or the dishes not being done just triggered sadness and anxiety. The daily tasks were just 10x harder than it had to be. I wanted to share this because some people look at my photos and assume that I have my life together. There’s more to pretty pictures and there is struggle there just like everybody else. I know you moms can relate to me when I talk about the changes that happen after having the baby. Lack of sleep, changes in daily routine, changes in roles at home and work, self image, anxiety to being a new parent. Not to mention what happens with our bodies during birth. I can’t believe I survived that btw. I will always cherish everything I went through and I’d probably do it over again if I had to.
Anyway, I just wanted to let other Mothers know that you are not alone! These are just things that I remind myself or just some tips for new Mothers out there to help with the new transition.
- Relax. Indulge. Imagine. Note to team Smash + Tess, I could not have said this better myself. Thanks Smash + Tess for designing luxurious sleepwear that dives into women’s feminine side while still feeling confident and comfortable. I recently just got this sleepwear that says “Morning Person” from their line. I guess now I’m a qualified morning person right? If I’m going to be at home 24/7, I might as well look cute. I would wear this in public too! Here’s another favourite of mine from their line! The best part is that Smash + Tess was created by a mother-daughter bestie team. Girl bosses! So ya, go ahead and pamper yourself, go out for a walk, eat the cake, buy the dress..or the jambes!
- Surround yourself with people who love you. Reaching out for support is the number one thing. Let them do the dishes for you, take your little one when you need a break, let them cook for you. I am blessed to have people in my life who are wholeheartedly supported me from the moment I gave birth. Seek out a Mommy and Baby group in your local area. I can’t believe how many events and classes exist for new moms and babies! Even if you have supportive family and friends, it’s also good to seek out other women who are dealing with the same transition into motherhood. I can’t tell you how good I felt after hearing other mothers share the same worries and feelings.
- REST. Whoever said sleep when the baby sleeps was crazy. How do you get anything done then? I am pretty lucky to have people who want to spend quality time with Gabriel. So during those times, take full advantage of it and power nap! It makes a huge difference in your mood, also because you will need that energy to give to your baby! Especially if you’re breastfeeding!
- Netflix it. Yes, I will add that on here. It kept my awake during those long nights of breastfeeding. Some shows I watched included Prison Break , Glitch and a whole lot of Greys Anatomy. Just remember to take it all in! It goes by so quick. You will never get this time back.